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I asked this question before but i didnt get any good answers…i know i need to speak to my fiance and i plan on doing so tonigh…hes sister had no where to go and needed a place to stay for a while so we decided that she could stay with us for a while…now shes been there on and off for 6 or 7 months…and i cant seem to get any alone time with my fiance..she walks into the bathroom while i’m in the shower without knocking, shes come into our bed room to watch tv and when i was gettin off the computer to go lay on the bed with my fiance i turn around and she had gotten herself comfortable and layed on my bed, shes walked in my room while i was in my bath towel, a mean theres just no privacy and i’m really sarting to get upset with this…i find myself fighting with him just because i’m in a bad mood because this situation is bothering me…i just want to know am i being selfish..or do you think that i’m right for the way that i’m feeling..i just need my space and alone time just us
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i think you need to show here who is the boss i think it shall be you my friend
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You need to talk to him ASAP and let him know how you feel. Even though that is his sister she should have enough love and respect for her brother to allow the two of you to have private quality time. If talking to him seems to not work then you go to her and let her know how you feel and that things need to change. You are not being selfish. You are being understanding and compassionate but enough is enough.
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You need to do what you said and talk to your fiance about this…everything you wrote here. If he truly loves you and is concerned about your well-being he will understand and get a move on getting her out of there. I’ve been here, it was my own father. I couldn’t take it anymore and just said, I don’t care if he’s family, he’s grown and he’s gotta go! It felt bad at first, but the guilt quickly went away when I focused on the fact that mentally, for me, this was the healthiest thing. It didn’t take him long to get on his feet when pushed to, you’ll see. Good luck!
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Start posting Roomate Needed Post around she’ll get the picture…. if that doesn’t help talk to her woman to woman.
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Advice columnists always know just what to do. I don’t. Ask them.
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If she’s been there that long tell her she needs to help with paying the bills.Tell her you don’t like her walking in on you when your in the shower that you are modest.Also tell her you need time alone it may sound selfish, but its your house and you want to talk to your fiance..If that doesn’t work start talking about having kids and that you’ll need a babysitter to scare her off.But make sure your fiance.. knows what your doing.
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No, it’s not selfish. You and your husband bought the house. It is your home not hers.
First off, You should make her do chores around the house. Tell her you’ll make her pay rent. I think that she finds it real easy to stay with you because she doesn’t have to do anything. You feed her you give her a place to stay.
Secondly, You have to set rules. It is your house she has to understand when your someones guest you have things that are expected of you.
Lastly, if your husband has asked her to stay it is his responsibility to get her to leave. You can help her save money or look for a place but it being your husband’s sister it is his job to get her out
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communicate. communicate. communicate. it’s never easy to tell another person something as annoying as your case but you have to sum up yr courage and tell her about it. has it ever occurred to you that your sister in law may be blissfully oblivious to your growing irritation? a gentle approach will be nice. maybe you can start off by locking your bathroom door while you are showering and if she asks if she could enter, you can tell her that she can use it AFTER you. please don’t fight with your fiance because it just won’t help. you have to iron yr irritations out with your sister in law, albeit nicely because it’s bothering you and not your fiance. they are siblings remember?
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There is nothing wrong what-so ever in the way you feel. She has little respect for you and she should be more thankful that she has a place to stay. You should really try to talk to your fiance, and see how he feels about it. Its not fair that your mad and take it out on him, if he has no idea that you feel a certain way. If you talk to him and he doesn’t do something or understand the situation, it looks like you re on your own. Talk to her then. You should try to set some boundaries. You re making it too comfortable for her to stay.
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