Dating Secrets Revealed

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I really like this cute girl in my class. I’m 23 and we’re in a college class together. A month ago or so I met her and talked to her for like 5 minutes. Then I said Hi/how ya doin a couple times etc. Then last week on monday I made an effort to talk to her as she was walking after class so we talked for like 8 minutes. THen wednesday before class we talked for like 5 minutes. I guess you could say we’re friends, but I don’t know if she thinks I like her or not in that way. What should I do next? I really want to talk to her more and maybe do something with her. Should I ask her to lunch? Or just ask her out to do something? Please give me a course of action for this situation. Should I just be like “hey wanna do something sometime?”
I also really like how she doesn’t seem to be one of those ditsy, slutty, drunk party girls. She’s into school too.
Should I start complimenting her to let her know I have feelings?

If you put more effort into having a REAL life as you do asking dump ass questions that have no significance, then you’d probably won’t have the time to be “king of level five” and moreover you’d probably get laid.

There is a waitress at a restuarant that I go to often that has been flirting with me and and going out of her way to talk to me. Normally, I would just write this off as a waitress trying to be nice for tips, but she doesn’t treat other customers the same way. She is definatly making an effort to get my attention and she will always initiate the conversations and comes over to say hi when she is not my waitress. I eat out for lunch and dinner everyday and I have never had a waitress act like this. So I don’t think I’m imagining this.

So I eventually asked her if she wanted to get coffee sometime and she took a few seconds to answer and said “I can’t” i was like OK then she paused again for a few seconds again and said she had a boy friend.

I have been back to the restuarant since and she still acts interested, still comes over to talk, is always smiling, and asking me about things we have talked about in the past my interests and my work. Why?

I dunno what to do? Im suffering all the time from physical problems that I can’t stop thinking bout and it makes me scared. I can’t live with them. Everyday I just think I want to end it. I don’t much any more either. I wish I had amnesia so I couldn’t remember these things that scare me. I know I have to try the therapies medications first but I feel hopeless I don’t see how this fear can possibly be cured. I don’t think there is a solution. So just feel unmotivated. I just want to lay down and sleep and not wake up. How can I motivate my self to do my very best using therapies and medication and give my maximun effort to get well when I feel so hopeless with no quality of life any more and constant suffereing.
I’m already starting therapies and medication soon but I don’t they will work on my unual problem. I just have no hope.